Blanket Scarf

Today, before I get into the fashion aspect of this post, there’s just something I’ve been thinking about daily and wanted to share my thoughts. It’s a blog right? I can use my own to write about whatever I want so here it goes. 

It’s kind of crazy how social media allows us to portray any type of life we want. Don’t get me wrong here, I love social media. I love meeting new people, sharing images, ideas, dreams, laughs. I love how it keeps us connected with those we don’t get to see often and opens doors to new friendships you would have never had. But the truth is, it is a cover. 

Everybody has their insecurities, their lows, things they regret that they bottle up and let them tear at them daily. Mine has really been tearing at me the past two years or so. Every day I struggle with body image. I’ll sit infront of the mirror every morning, afternoon and night pointing out to myself all the things I wish I could change. I stand on the scale praying the number is lower than what it actually is. I pinch my body in all the places I feel fat. I change my eating habits, I look up weight loss supplements online, anything is worth trying. It’s affected my personality and my relationships. I can tell me as an individual has lost some of my sense of humor, I’m not always peppy and bubbly the way I used to be. I’ll take my anger out on my boyfriend if I feel guilty about what I ate, or let it consume my mind to the point where I feel depressed and am not giving him the love he deserves. Some of you reading this probably think I’m crazy, and some of you probably completely understand. 

Now, I am not telling you this to have empathy towards me or for you to pitty me. I’m simply sharing my story and my struggles to let any of you going through your own that you are not alone. I have read quote after quote, blog after blog, article after article on body image, loving yourself, and women struggles. I have made a promise to myself that I am going to strive with all I have to not let this eat me up anymore. To not let this define me as a person or cause me such harsh stages of depression. I have noticed all the things I love about myself. I have actually believed people when they compliment me. I have been able to see an astonishing amount of beauty in other people, in the way the look, laugh, light up when they talk about a certain subject, the way the are. I have been happy. There are still times it comes back in waves, but I am working at it every day. 

You are all beautiful. Not you minus twenty five pounds, more curvy or up a cup size or two. Not you with more successes or fewer failures. Not you with more riches or fame. You in your most raw and unedited state. Eating a carton of ice cream, with a messy bun, no makeup and your baggiest of clothes. I want to see more of us girls embracing our unique beauty, building each other up, not judging or criticizing or tearing each other down. Post that selfie. I  personally love when people do. You feel cute that day, GOOD. I’m glad to see that, because you are.

With all of that said, I love when people reach out to me. No matter the topic. So if any of you are ever struggling, and need someone to talk to. Send me a text, shoot me an email. Call me. We are all in this together, and it’s not our fault we feel this pressure of being ‘magazine perfect’. It’s the image society has given us to match, and that’s not beauty. You are beauty. 

Before I give you all my clothing links, I want rant a bit on the style of this post, I have been obsessing over huuuuuge scarfs lately!! This one I recently got is amazing, it matches nearly everything because of the neutral black and grey tones, and keeps me SO SO WARM! This dress is also perfection because it is slightly body con…but not totally. So you still feel like you could eat a cheese burger in it. I also have been really digging black and white stripes lately, along with pattern clashing where you wear two (or more) different patterns in one outfit. I want to try a plaid and cheetah print look too! And of course I’m wearing my black hat…as always. 

I hope you guys are all enjoying your December and going to lots of holiday festivities! Again, I’m super serious about us all going through life struggles together, I’m always here for you, even those of you who we don’t actually ‘know’ each other. Love you all xx 

Photos x Sarah Wolfe

H&M dress | H&M scarf, another one I love here | favorite simple black booties right now here, here & here | Marc Jacobs cross body | Sole Society fedora | Michael Kors watch | Alex and Ani bracelets I love here, here, here & here (make great gifts!!) 

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11 Comments

  1. December 8, 2015 / 12:53 am

    Thank you so so much for this post and for being so authentic! I totally understand not feeling good enough and it is a constant struggle to feel confident in todays world. Your blog is amazing and you seem so beautiful and kind! I hope you have a good week!

    • Karlie Ragan
      December 8, 2015 / 3:32 am

      Thank you so much for the sweet comment! Truthfully means the world. I think most people struggle with it and it’s just something we have to try to change and really stick together and have each other’s backs. I hope your week is great as well, God Bless <3

  2. Kaitlin Celli
    December 8, 2015 / 3:11 am

    You’re beautiful. Never forget that

    • Karlie Ragan
      December 8, 2015 / 3:32 am

      gah i love you, you little ray of sunshine. right back at you <3

  3. Milisa
    December 8, 2015 / 3:17 am

    You look so much like your beautiful momma in some of these pictures! And your words speak of the beautiful and brave lady that you are all on your own. Keep spreading your light and remember to be kind to yourself.

    • Karlie Ragan
      December 8, 2015 / 3:35 am

      Such a compliment saying I look like my mama!! Thank you so much, I really want to work towards uplifting people in anyway I can. I know it’s easy to be my worst critic, and I’m working very hard on that! Much love xo

  4. Brianne
    December 8, 2015 / 4:21 am

    Great post 💜😘 you are beautiful!

    • Karlie Ragan
      December 8, 2015 / 4:39 am

      Right back atcha <3 thank you

  5. Raquel
    December 8, 2015 / 4:52 am

    You’re so beautiful inside & out Kar. Love always <3

  6. Kimberly
    December 21, 2015 / 7:05 pm

    This post was so what I needed to hear today. Thank you so much for being vulnerable. You are beautiful inside and out. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

  7. farina
    December 21, 2015 / 9:51 pm

    hej karlie.
    Somehow just arrived in your blog and read the first part of your latest post. Thought it would be the same kind of motivational speeches you find everywhere… And I never expected that a true and helpless picture of someone else could make it easier than all these books and articles. But it’s exactly that. I first saw your instagram profile…such a self confident beautiful girl, with a nice boyfriend and luck in life.
    To read what happens inside is just like a revelation and makes me start thinking about my own picture of myself again.
    Thank you for sharing.

    *zimmmtster

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