Today, before I get into the fashion aspect of this post, there’s just something I’ve been thinking about daily and wanted to share my thoughts. It’s a blog right? I can use my own to write about whatever I want so here it goes.
It’s kind of crazy how social media allows us to portray any type of life we want. Don’t get me wrong here, I love social media. I love meeting new people, sharing images, ideas, dreams, laughs. I love how it keeps us connected with those we don’t get to see often and opens doors to new friendships you would have never had. But the truth is, it is a cover.
Everybody has their insecurities, their lows, things they regret that they bottle up and let them tear at them daily. Mine has really been tearing at me the past two years or so. Every day I struggle with body image. I’ll sit infront of the mirror every morning, afternoon and night pointing out to myself all the things I wish I could change. I stand on the scale praying the number is lower than what it actually is. I pinch my body in all the places I feel fat. I change my eating habits, I look up weight loss supplements online, anything is worth trying. It’s affected my personality and my relationships. I can tell me as an individual has lost some of my sense of humor, I’m not always peppy and bubbly the way I used to be. I’ll take my anger out on my boyfriend if I feel guilty about what I ate, or let it consume my mind to the point where I feel depressed and am not giving him the love he deserves. Some of you reading this probably think I’m crazy, and some of you probably completely understand.
Now, I am not telling you this to have empathy towards me or for you to pitty me. I’m simply sharing my story and my struggles to let any of you going through your own that you are not alone. I have read quote after quote, blog after blog, article after article on body image, loving yourself, and women struggles. I have made a promise to myself that I am going to strive with all I have to not let this eat me up anymore. To not let this define me as a person or cause me such harsh stages of depression. I have noticed all the things I love about myself. I have actually believed people when they compliment me. I have been able to see an astonishing amount of beauty in other people, in the way the look, laugh, light up when they talk about a certain subject, the way the are. I have been happy. There are still times it comes back in waves, but I am working at it every day.
You are all beautiful. Not you minus twenty five pounds, more curvy or up a cup size or two. Not you with more successes or fewer failures. Not you with more riches or fame. You in your most raw and unedited state. Eating a carton of ice cream, with a messy bun, no makeup and your baggiest of clothes. I want to see more of us girls embracing our unique beauty, building each other up, not judging or criticizing or tearing each other down. Post that selfie. I personally love when people do. You feel cute that day, GOOD. I’m glad to see that, because you are.
With all of that said, I love when people reach out to me. No matter the topic. So if any of you are ever struggling, and need someone to talk to. Send me a text, shoot me an email. Call me. We are all in this together, and it’s not our fault we feel this pressure of being ‘magazine perfect’. It’s the image society has given us to match, and that’s not beauty. You are beauty.
Before I give you all my clothing links, I want rant a bit on the style of this post, I have been obsessing over huuuuuge scarfs lately!! This one I recently got is amazing, it matches nearly everything because of the neutral black and grey tones, and keeps me SO SO WARM! This dress is also perfection because it is slightly body con…but not totally. So you still feel like you could eat a cheese burger in it. I also have been really digging black and white stripes lately, along with pattern clashing where you wear two (or more) different patterns in one outfit. I want to try a plaid and cheetah print look too! And of course I’m wearing my black hat…as always.
I hope you guys are all enjoying your December and going to lots of holiday festivities! Again, I’m super serious about us all going through life struggles together, I’m always here for you, even those of you who we don’t actually ‘know’ each other. Love you all xx
Photos x Sarah Wolfe
H&M dress | H&M scarf, another one I love here | favorite simple black booties right now here, here & here | Marc Jacobs cross body | Sole Society fedora | Michael Kors watch | Alex and Ani bracelets I love here, here, here & here (make great gifts!!)