I Pray It Stops

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I had this outfit post drafted with photos only and no text. I was still brainstorming on what to write about or touch on. This morning when I woke up to another story about cyber bullying, it just kind of spoke to me, and that’s what I decided to write about today so here it goes.

Social media has brought a lot of positives into my life. A career, tons of new friends, ways to stay connected to old friends and family, inspo for my style or my house – the list goes on. But the online world sadly isn’t so innocent. In the past two weeks specifically, I’ve witness first hand some ways that people are using social media and it has not only been eye opening, but blood boiling and so disheartening to be quite frank. As this is my blog, outlet, and sometimes diary, I wanted to share these with you guys today because we NEED to be spreading love and positivity in a world that does nothing but tear us down. I don’t want to see all online platforms or social medias turn into nothing but hateful comments. How ugly would that be.

Two weekends ago while I was out of town for a wedding, I received an email asking for a comment to be approved on my recent blog post “My Life Story“. I have my comments be approved because lots of spam comments come in, and I don’t want my personal blog flooded with spam. This comment however was from “karlie@imsodumb.com” commenting on how painful my post was to read, and how a bag of hammers is smarter than I am. Now, luckily I have a sense of humor and found the humor in the comment, but I couldn’t help thinking that whoever wrote it, went out of their way INTENTIONALLY to hurt me or make me feel stupid. On another note, I have never claimed to be some genius! When I write my blog, I write it with my personal personality and how I talk, I don’t try to write something for school with perfect grammar because that’s just not me. And that is how I want my blog to be. The comment itself wasn’t too hurtful, I have received much worse, but what got to me is that is how some people in this world choose to spend THEIR time. You only get so many moments to live, and that is how you choose to spend it? Hurting other people? And what benefit does it bring to them?

The same weekend, I got a message from someone close to me who is a mom saying that their child was being made a joke over Facebook by PARENTS. This one really threw me for a whirl because as parents or even as adults in general, we are supposed to number one be role models for the youth, but number two lift children up, again in a world that just brings them down. The kids of today grow up in a completely different world than we did, with cyber bullying at their finger tips. How are we supposed to teach them to love themselves and be confident in themselves if we are going online and doing the exact opposite? Especially talking about them. Children these days go through horrible things like depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts – it’s all SO real. We should not be adding to that but doing our best to release them from it.

Today, I woke up to go view one of my favorite Instagram accounts to follow that features bloggers, and noticed that a specific photo of one of the bloggers I personally love and admire had tons of comments. The comments that were previewed all seemed very defensive, like they were having to defend the blogger featured against mean comments. I scrolled up to the very top to go through them and see what was going on and my heart just ached. This specific blogger is naturally super thin, yet she lives a very healthy lifestyle. The commenters all posted about how ‘disturbing’ this photo was, how this account shouldn’t be promoting photoshopped images or anorexia, how they ‘don’t mean to body shame BUT’. I couldn’t help but think of the girl in the image reading this comments and being so hurt by them. There were dozens and dozens of them, and I am even wording them nicely on here. This girl rocks the body that God gave her, she is made in his image and God does not make mistakes. Body shaming is the same whether your commenting on someone being fat, skinny, tall, short – whatever is different and seems unhealthy or not appealing to you. In all cases it is hurtful and I pray this stops.

I pray that not only do these types of comments and conversations stop, but that we can alter our minds to not think that way in the first place. I pray we can LOVE each other and spread positivity. That we can encourage people and build up each other’s confidence because when you really think about it, it is SO freaking cool that out of the billions of people in the world, no two are exactly the same. How unique does that make you?! Ugh, so cool. These are the things we need to focus on. Celebrating our differences, each other’s unique qualities, the things you love about yourself and even the things you don’t love so much. For those of you on the other end and having these hurtful things happen to you, know you are not alone. Know that those things are untrue and lies. Know that you are beautiful, you are LOVED, you are wonderfully made. πŸ™‚

I’m not sure what compelled me to write this post today, but something did and I’m hoping that by people speaking out about cyber bullying or body shaming we can create a more beautiful and loving community – on and offline. I’m also not saying I am perfect and innocent of all this, because I am not! We are in this together and there are so many positives that come from social media that I hope we can keep our focus on!!

If you made it to the bottom of this post, I applaud you! Rant over πŸ™‚ LOVE YOU ALL!

Xx,

Photos x Molly Meeks

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11 Comments

  1. Holly
    October 25, 2017 / 11:30 pm

    Love this post, KarlieRae. Women should build each other up, support each other, and make one another better. Girls should never bring other girls down. We need each other! I love your inspiring words. Kindness above all else. Karlie@issosmart issosowonderful issoamazing IS MORE LIKE IT! xoxo, #1fangirl

    • Karlie Rae
      October 26, 2017 / 6:10 pm

      Freaking love you Holly!!! This comment made my day you are the best

  2. Caitlin
    October 26, 2017 / 1:23 am

    Karlie,

    I stumbled upon your blog and it was such a beautiful post to stumble-upon. I think that this is a wonderful thing to speak out about and a wonderful way to utilize your platform. Its really awesome to see someone use their blog for their passions and to exhibit their character. And, just so you know, this says WONDERS about your intelligence that I’m sure any person who takes time out of their day to tear down does not have. I sincerely wish you all the best!

    • Karlie Rae
      October 26, 2017 / 6:08 pm

      Thank you so much Caitlin! So happy you stumbled across my blog today!! πŸ™‚ and thank you SO much for all the kind words you are the sweetest!!

  3. Mom
    October 26, 2017 / 2:04 am

    Beautiful Rant! I love you! ❀️

  4. Morgan
    October 26, 2017 / 2:48 am

    πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—

  5. Olivia
    October 26, 2017 / 5:57 am

    I think it’s awesome that you post and share this because so many people look up to you and listen to what you have to say. So many people are jealous and envy what you have so it makes sense for this type of thing to happen even though it’s so awful and not right…but just remember it’s out of jealousy and you are an inspiration to so many! Keep being you girl!

    • Karlie Rae
      October 26, 2017 / 6:06 pm

      Such a sweet comment Olivia!! Thank you so SO much!

  6. Carol parker
    October 26, 2017 / 7:00 am

    Loved it

  7. October 27, 2017 / 11:28 pm

    Karlie,

    I have to tell you how much more I love your blog, because of this post. This is an issue that needs to be addressed and I love seeing that my fellow Seattle Babes are addressing it with so much compassion and heart. Seriously love this! Thanks for being such a sweet person Karlie.

    xx Kailin

    • Karlie Rae
      October 29, 2017 / 11:33 pm

      Aw THANK YOU Kailin!! That was such a sweet comment! It really is so important to bring awareness to issues such as this, and when we have a platform to, I think it’s the best way to get involved! Thanks again for your sweet words babe, I’m so happy you liked the post πŸ™‚

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